Once you are married, the Desi Aunties will become active again. You know what they wanna know now? When you will become three from two. Your favorite Aunty will keep an eye on your belly now.
Many of you might have experienced what I’m about to share.
Expectations & Assumptions from Desi Aunties:
1.Now that you are finally married, your khaandan will expect you to expect in the first year of marriage.
2. If you fail to fulfill their expectation, beta something is wrong with you!
3. You might be having a health issue. Usually you will hear Ajj kal ki larkiyon mai himmat nahi hai type desi lines.
4. You might be not happy with your guy that’s why you are not making babies.
5. It might be your gunnahon ki saza for not marrying their son.
People can have crazy expectations and assumptions! What people do not realize is that all this actually hurts. If you were blessed with a child in the first year of marriage so should I give you an Oscar for it? I mean, Its not even in your hands. It is the Will of Allah alone.
When you say something related to this, you are asking a VERY personal question. You do not know what the couple is going through. They might already be under depression and you are only increasing it. Or Simply they might not be planning yet.
Another thing which I absolutely hate is when aunties say “Chalo, Allah tumhe baita de” Whats wrong in saying Allah tumhe baiti de? or simply Allah tumhe naik aulad de? Why the focus on beta?
Did You Know?
Okay, leaving behind all the sarcasm. Let me share something. There has been a woman of honor, courage and knowledge who was childless but yet was called a mother. Any guesses?
She is none other than Umm-e-Ayesha (R.A). Very few people have actually pondered upon this fact that Hazrat Ayesha (R.A) had no child of her own and yet she earned herself the title of Mother of All Believers. How Beautiful!
Did anyone say bad about her not having her own child? Or asked her such personal question? No. No one did. Then why bother the married couples about having children ASAP?
Islam has touched every aspect of our lives, gives us examples of every possible situation we may face. When I thought about this fact, I realized that there is a reason behind it.
Allah wanted us to know that even if you do not have your own offspring you are still complete. It is simply the Will of Allah.
Something really beautiful I read somewhere on the Internet.
I want to end with one thing,
Abeer writes 
Looks like life after marriage ain’t that simple at all i guess??
The funny thing is that someone will always be there to bother you (in your life) with negative vibes off course hahaha but how you manage to stay away from all of those non sense is most Important.
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Yes! People need to look through a different perspective to end stereotypical thinking 🙂
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